Stone Arch Bridge suicides: Teenage couple jump to their deaths days after they go missing [UPDATES]

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Borgstrom (left) and Coach jumped to their deaths early this morning.
-- Original post from afternoon of May 14; updates at bottom --

Around 6:30 pm. last Friday, 16-year-old Erika Borgstrom texted her mother with a simple message: "I LOVE YOU." Her mother thought she was making a trip to a music store in River Falls. But Erika didn't come home, and her mother's subsequent attempts to call her indicated her phone was turned off. Over the weekend, Erika was reported missing.

It turned out Erika and her 18-year-old boyfriend, Dakotah Coach, had left Wisconsin for Minnesota together, as later on Friday evening, a surveillance camera spotted them at a Walmart in Woodbury. They weren't heard from again until today, when officials announced the couple jumped to their death from the Stone Arch Bridge.

Around 4:30 this morning, witnesses contacted law enforcement to report seeing two people jump from the Stone Arch Bridge. Those reports were confirmed this afternoon with the news that Borgstrom and Coach were the jumpers.

Both were students at St. Croix Central High School, where Borgstrom was a sophomore and Coach was a senior.

A statement from the St. Croix Central School District confirms the teens "took their own lives."

Both "were excellent students and outstanding musicians" and "will be missed greatly by all who knew them," the statement says.

:::: MAY 22 UPDATE ::::

The Pioneer Press's Mara Gottfried reports that a body recovered in the Mississippi River yesterday has been identified as Dakotah's:
:::: MAY 31 UPDATE ::::

KSTP reports that a body found in the water on Wednesday has been identified as Borgstrom's.

Her body was "pulled from the a back channel where the Mississippi and Minnesota rivers connect," KSTP writes. It was spotted by a fisherman who saw it entangled in a tree.

Her death was officially ruled a suicide.

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jamiemoser11
jamiemoser11

I have considered suicide in the past, but realize it isn't an option because I don't want to hurt the people that love me. I am here for them. And hopefully someday when I am feeling better, I will be here for me, too. I am so sorry for these parents. All we can do as parents is do our best. It's hard to know what the right thing is, sometimes. 


rallyespeed
rallyespeed

"Both were excellent students"

Mmm...apparently not.

TheConservativeJerk
TheConservativeJerk topcommenter

This girl was the cousin of one of my co-workers Mark.  

TheConservativeJerk
TheConservativeJerk topcommenter

What, you mean teen suicide ISN'T only caused by "gay bulling" 

Let fight for a  new law.  New school regulations.  New laws against parents having opinions about their kids boy/girlfriends .

Come on Southern poverty law center.  

Come on you homo warriors, "THE KIDS" need you; unless YOU don't care about dead kids.

kojak123
kojak123

Yes this is a tragedy, but why are so many people surprised by this? This happens and it's not that uncommon. Many reasons they could have done this and we'll probably never know for sure why they did, but teen suicide is not that unusual. Be bummed out that they did it, but it's not unheard of. Some of these responses make it seem like the person is just now learning that sometimes people take their own lives.

Yang Dao
Yang Dao

I always find it weird when people "like" these type of stories on facebook.

vanmuyden826
vanmuyden826

After spending two and a half years preventing my daughter from committing suicide. I know depression is a serious disease that can last a lifetime. Every day I pray to God for giving her the strength to continue growing and make it through another day. We see 8 therapists a week and go to a day treatment school. Have been through three attempts and are standing stronger than ever. Take all the help you can get Melissa

Scott Kulzer
Scott Kulzer

I gotta stop fishing in the Mississippi by downtown. too many bodies.

Brittany Lynn
Brittany Lynn

I'm confused... How did they know it was them in the first place if they just now found his body?

Kevin Gallagher
Kevin Gallagher

???? what does that have to do with a body being found?

mrdooleyjr
mrdooleyjr

I almost jumped from this same bridge. 

unknown
unknown

they don't even have the bodies. how do they know it was the right two who jumped??

vdennis25
vdennis25

Erika's mom and my mom are good friends. They were not supposed to be seeing each other so it's been assumed that they did it because of that but we don't know a whole lot about it right now. This just happened yesterday. They took off on Friday and then she had sent a text to her mom a little after 4am Tuesday morning (nothing about why though) then a few minutes later they jumped. Yes it is selfish but please remember that there are many people who are to hurt and sad by this to want to hear that stuff right now. Both Erika and Dakotah's parents are going to forever wonder if they had just let them be together would they be alive or if Erika's mom had woken up to that text could she have stopped them. That is something that no parent should ever have to live with but these kids decided to do that to their parents anyway, they put this guilt on their parents even though it is not their guilt to feel. It's not right but talking bad about them will do nothing but cause more pain by anyone who may see these posts (such as their parents). Please keep that in mind

Johan David Baumeister
Johan David Baumeister

I attempted suicide a year ago. It was a wake-up call to me to start treating my depression seriously and get professional care for it as I would any other medical condition. Nothing can be said that will ease the pain of these families who have lost their children to suicide. It is too late for these too. But if you or someone you know is in crisis, please consider that there are ALWAYS people who can help you and who care. http://www.namihelps.org/support/crisis-resources.html

noshoes61
noshoes61

Don't romanticize this. There is nothing  noble about making mothers day  a torment for your mom forever and yes it was selfish and no there is no pain that justifies doing this to your family. No there is nothing romantic or noble about rotting in the ground along with your BF/GF or whomever you trick or cajole or coerce into dying with you  No you can not be sure that God forgives self-murder  No just do not do it. The only one who is glorified by the death of young people is the devil and suicide is his tool

MarkoPolo
MarkoPolo

@rallyespeed What makes you think they weren't excellent students?  Committing suicide has nothing to do with your academic capabilities.

BIGherbDICKERSON
BIGherbDICKERSON

@TheConservativeJerk Hi Kirk, you always want to make it about you.  Let's make it about you.  When shall we make it about you.  You know I will be there.  I will make it about you.  Tell me Kirk, when can we make it about you.  I want to.

raegal
raegal

@Yang Dao They "like" it to say "thank you for reporting this".  Also, when you like a story, if the story is updated on that post, you will get a notification.  I figured everyone knew this by now.


sunshinnnegil
sunshinnnegil

@Scott Kulzer  that is not even funny, think before you speak!!!


HyperboleJoe
HyperboleJoe

@Brittany Perkins I don't think they "knew" it was them, but there were people who reported a young man and woman who fit their descriptions jumping off the bridge. They assumed it was them as they were missing. I'm guessing they found their car or something nearby as well, although that was never reported to my knowledge.

sarajean1982
sarajean1982

I hope you are getting help if you have felt depressed enough to consider doing something like this. Nothing is worth taking your life, things will get better. There are some great suicide hotlines out there to call. Dont be afraid to reach out for help.

ttoms
ttoms

Why weren't they allowed to date each other?

joecool1999
joecool1999

@vdennis25 Considering one of these people was a legal adult and the other one not exactly a baby, and considering both of these people were known to be good students with no apparent real legal or disciplinary problems, this really seems like a case of egocentric, control freak parents literally overprotecting their innocent children to death. There aren't really any good excuses for why the parents should have been trying to keep these two apart, and whatever parents did that deserve blame for this tragic incident.  You can only push people so hard before they are bound to do something awful. It is clear these two were pushed too hard and it's not exactly a mystery who pushed them. Any parents reading this take note: your children are not your property and when you do cruel things to them with no apparent good intentions or good reasons in sight, tragedies like this could occur.

ieatglitter
ieatglitter

@noshoes61 Clearly you've never truly felt the despair that can cause people to take that sort of action. I don't mean that as a pot shot, not everyone can be as lucky to have the emotional depth of a teaspoon.

sarajean1982
sarajean1982

One resource is 1-800- SUICIDE. They can help if you are feeling hopeless or considering ending your life. Please reach out if you are on the edge

MarkoPolo
MarkoPolo

@joecool1999 @vdennis25 The parents shouldn't be blamed in this.  The kids made a choice to do this.  Nobody will ever truly know why they chose to do this; it will always be speculation.

digitalprotocol
digitalprotocol topcommenter

@wecarealot79 shame on you for trying to impart emotions others. this is not really that sad for the two jumpers, just their families.

noshoes61
noshoes61

@ieatglitter @noshoes61  No, I am pretty sure everyone has contemplated suicide at one point or another . I found out I was pregnant when I was 16 that was pretty awful. I lost my Job, My house to a fire  and my husband was involved in a serious car accident all in one year once . I am Just not so self absorbed that I thought it would be a nice thing to make my families lives a living hell to satisfy a stupid selfish impulse. I am just not narcissistic enough for that. I am also not a stupid enough schmuck  to seek a permanent solution for a temporary problem.

noshoes61
noshoes61

@justwondering @noshoes61    One of the risk factors for suicide is having a  friend or family members commit suicide. I have seen it run like a contagion through a school where some kid commits suicide and pretty soon you have half a dozen emo teenagers trying to emulate them. you know darn well that there are probably some romantic  silly shits sitting around with a box of kleenex going "awwww. they died to together how boo-hooo-hoo-tiful". This was aimed at them

BIGherbDICKERSON
BIGherbDICKERSON

@TheConservativeJerk @RealistHi Kirk, you always want to make it about you.  Let's make it about you.  When shall we make it about you.  You know I will be there.  I will make it about you.  Tell me Kirk, when can we make it about you.  I want to. Hi Kirk, you always want to make it about you.  Let's make it about you.  When shall we make it about you.  You know I will be there.  I will make it about you.  Tell me Kirk, when can we make it about you.  I want to. Hi Kirk, you always want to make it about you.  Let's make it about you.  When shall we make it about you.  You know I will be there.  I will make it about you.  Tell me Kirk, when can we make it about you.  I want to. Hi Kirk, you always want to make it about you.  Let's make it about you.  When shall we make it about you.  You know I will be there.  I will make it about you.  Tell me Kirk, when can we make it about you.  I want to. Hi Kirk, you always want to make it about you.  Let's make it about you.  When shall we make it about you.  You know I will be there.  I will make it about you.  Tell me Kirk, when can we make it about you.  I want to. Hi Kirk, you always want to make it about you.  Let's make it about you.  When shall we make it about you.  You know I will be there.  I will make it about you.  Tell me Kirk, when can we make it about you.  I want to. 

TheConservativeJerk
TheConservativeJerk topcommenter

@MicheleBachmann   While you call me all sorts of names and make insinuations about my intentions, you again offer NOTHING.  Fight MB fight!  It's "about the kids" you big fu*king hypocrite.  

The truly hilarious thing here, and I would like all those who read this to make note; MB calls me "evil" while MB uses a human skull for an aviator.   

MicheleBachmann
MicheleBachmann topcommenter

@TheConservativeJerk  You are an evil awful person.   Oh well, what do I expect.  Not the first time you've mocked dead children.  Your hatred of gay people makes you an evil pathetic bigot.  Your stupidity and hatred are why your side is losing.  It's so obvious how wrong you are about everything when you type stuff like this.  

noshoes61
noshoes61

@motorman Nope , just accurate... if you are sitting there on a bridge or with a gun or whatever focused on your misery all you are thinking about is you and if someone else happens to cross your mind it is only in relation to how sorry you think this is going to make them.


jessicass
jessicass

@ieatglitter @noshoes61 I love this double standard, of late, that has made it popular to bash those of us who tend toward logic before "feelings." I particularly love the little insults you all throw in there. "the emotional depth of a teaspoon" and such. Now, if one of us were to insult you we'd get a 3 paragraph diatribe about how it brought up old feelings of persecution or triggered your anxiety but because you have somehow determined that logical people don't feel at all, you have decided it's ok to insult them. 

Logical people feel, we just don't let it control us. We weigh options first. It's neither right nor wrong, it's just a difference in cognitive function. As stated before, most of us know the feelings of despair that lead to suicide contemplation all too well. We just happen to not act on it because we've figured out how to keep emotions at bay long enough to think past it. Instead of striking out at people who can do that,you might want to try and learn from them before you end up on a bridge yourself and can't manage to get back down the painless way. 

motorman
motorman

@noshoes61 @ieatglitter  Quite an assumption that "everyone has contemplated suicide at one point or another".  Really?  And your comments about people who commit suicide are selfish, self-absorbed, and narcissistic--pretty judgmental dont' you think?

motorman
motorman

@noshoes61 @ieatglitter 

Quite an assumption that "everyone has contemplated suicide at one point or another".  And saying the choice of suicide as self-absorption, stupid and selfish sounds pretty judgmental & self-righteous, don't you think?

noshoes61
noshoes61

@ieatglitter @noshoes61 Saying someone has the emotional depth of a teaspoon when you do not even know them can not be anything but a pot shot. Being self absorbed does kind of limit your ability to have a husband  and a child I worked as a home care  hospice nurse  for 12 years. There is  nothing particularly romantic about being dead I have also seen more then a couple corpses after  a suicide and took care of one guy that blew his face off in the attempt and failed. The reconstruction was not so very successful.  It is  hard to talk without a roof to your mouth.  It is just sad for everyone that is unfortunate enough to care about you ... oh and nothing like  leaving whatever unfinished business  you have for some one you allegedly love to have to sort out. Yup  being self -absorbed does not make you deep it just makes you self-absorbed. Committing suicide is exactly saying My problems are worse then whatever problems anyone else suffers. so yup narcissistic. If you are still suicidal after taking antidepressants , you should be aware that that could be a side effect of the antidepressants  no I am not joking read the list of side effects you get from the pharmacy. Alert your physician.

ieatglitter
ieatglitter

 @noshoes61 @ieatglitter Well I guess everyone doesn't have superhero emotional strength like you do. Suicide isn't about narcissism and it isn't about selfishness. It is about despair. I'm sorry that you had to endure all that, but perhaps you have a better support system in place. Perhaps you were able to get through it. Have you ever thought that it is selfish of people to deny someone the right to end their misery because it will make other suffer? Why should the person contemplating suicide have to suffer to keep their families for suffering. Sounds pretty selfish to me. I contemplate suicide several times a week, and have tried many times. I have a chemical imbalance, and medication and counseling have proven thusfar to be for the most part, ineffective. Not everyone experiences life as you do, and not everyone is wired the way that you are, and if you ask me, it seems pretty narcissistic for you to assume that you have experienced sadness, despair, and plight greater than or equal to what others have experienced. Not everyone is lucky enough to have a husband, a home, a child, etc. I'm not trying to pot shot you, but if you are going to call other people narcissistic, then you are going to have to think about how other people experience life, and how it might be radically different from the way you experience yours.

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