Mpls woman secretly records conversations with catcallers, posts video online [VIDEOS]

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This guy told Lindsey, "Minnesota chicks are hot." Little did he know it was caught on tape.
Lindsey, the same 28-year-old woman who infamously called out a Minneapolis catcaller in an epic Cragslist Missed Connection ad last year, has upped her game.

She's now taken to secretly recording interactions with catcallers, then posting the clips online. At the conclusion of each interaction, she tries to give the men a card referring them to CardsAgainstHarassment.com. The banner of the website reads, "Being harassed by strangers isn't fun, but now, responding to street harassment can be."

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The site contains a number of downloadable cards with messages like, "Things that are not great about working downtown: harassment by total strangers" and, "Your mom... would be really disappointed to learn that she had raised a street harasser." (See all the designs at the end of this post.)

On the site's FAQ, Lindsey (as she's identified in a recent BuzzFeed report) asks herself: "What are you, a man-hating feminist prude?"

Here's her response:
Great question, friend. No. No, I am not. I am a sex-positive, friendly person who believes that non-harassing flirtation, courtship, and sex play a huge and healthy part in a person's quality of life. I am a feminist, but odds are, so is every person you've ever enjoyed spending time around, because that just means I believe women and men should have equal rights and opportunities and that men and women alike are worse off if we keep systems in place that perpetuate double standards or limitations for women, and people who don't support those basic principles are probably boring turds.
"At best, it's annoying. At worst, it makes women feel unsafe because it forces them to wonder: if this man feels entitled to comment on my appearance, what's to stop him from trying to touch me, or follow me?" she adds. "So no, it's not a compliment. If a woman tells you it's not a compliment and you persist in doing it you are being intentionally intimidating."

On the topic of what sort of street interactions are permissible, Lindsey writes, "Of course there are ways to approach women you're attracted to that aren't harassment, and ways to tell a woman you know that you think she's gorgeous. Initiating a conversation with someone you don't know and blurting out comments about their face or body isn't one of them."

"As one of my friends recently put it, when a conversation with an unknown guy centers on a woman's appearance, the conversation has become one that is 'about my body parts and that is such a minuscule part of the whole person that it makes me feel like there is a different intention in this conversation and one that I don't want to be a part of,'" she continues.

We touched base with Lindsey to see if she'd talk with us for this piece. She said she's scheduled to do an interview with Good Morning America and has agreed to exclusivity with them until the segment airs, but we agreed to talk after that happens.

Meanwhile, to see the videos Lindsay has been posting to YouTube this month, click to page two.



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JohnSnow
JohnSnow

This is one of the most ignorant things I have heard of,  if I want to give someone a complement I can do that and I will.  There is a big difference between complements and harrassment and she seems to think they are one in the same.  I would venture to guess that this started from her friends getting complements and she is jealous because no person in there right mind cares if someone complements them.  Thats like me getting pissed off when someone says "your kids are very well behaved".  And when did it start if someone complements you that means they think that they can grope you?  This is just plain stupid.  Since when in any context did "you look gorgeous" become scary or harrassment?  She must be someone who is miserable to be around.

Darcy McGill
Darcy McGill

Yeah because it's not scary as hell when a man who has obviously "lost his marbles" yells at you from across the street right?

John Bunch
John Bunch

Gangster of Love lyrics. Geto Boyz: " Gangster of love I've never been played by a ho! If the bitch is acting stupid, She's got to go! Some mutherfuckers [missadden'] If she fucks with me, i'ma kick her little monkey ass! See you hoes got it wrong! Think that if some nigga says he loves you he ain't strong. Bitch you take the shit the wrong way. And I can tell right now. it's gonna be a long day! I got to educate you brothas If the bitch won't give up the play Fuck her! Move along to the next trick. See I'm the type a nigga that tell a ho "suck dick!" What if she's not suckin' That's a waste of time Conversation and my fuckin' I just put my fuckin pants on And tell the idiotic freak To take her tramp ass home!

John Bunch
John Bunch

I recently read a stat by the Minneapolis police that African-American men are 13-times more violent toward their wives/girlfriends than white men. Of course, even if true, anyone bringing that up will be accused of racism. Btw, I don't believe in race. I am part Irish and Irish - Americans were historically much more violent than most ethnic groups. Culture or sub-culture is often to blame. Ignoring reality doesn't help.

John Bunch
John Bunch

I love it when people argue that my take on hip-hop culture is wrong about misogyny by using words like "dick" and "motherfucker." Dude, you just proved my point. (Listen to Toby Keith or must County singers and then the typical rap singer. Most of the vocabulary of rap comes directly from pimping. Listen to Ghetto Boyz just as one example).

Xavier Davis
Xavier Davis

If we're going that route, maybe we can blame hip-hop urban culture for the white slave owners who would harass, abuse, rape, and murder their black slaves at will. Or maybe we can blame hip-hop culture for David Letterman's workplace sexual harassment issues? Or maybe we can stop making ignorant/bigoted comments. I'd much prefer the latter. Every race or "culture" is made up of individuals and if you somehow learn to discern the difference between these things; the world will be a better place.

kjhgfds
kjhgfds

hmmm a lot of black men featured, why dosent she say she just hates black men, that seems to be her problem, she is a typical racist

Justin Young
Justin Young

Society is going to hell and she is only making it worse

xxxerocool
xxxerocool

I have only watched the first couple vids, so far, and point it out to me if I am wrong, it seems as if this is her biggest problem, her call to arms, she may have a pretty good life. I get it, I will never tell a woman she is pretty again.


Andrew Pudwill
Andrew Pudwill

"Woman with super annoying voice harasses both the men desperate enough to try to talk to her, has video camera ready to prove a man tried to talk to her."

Stephen Noel
Stephen Noel

Upon further reflection on your responses. I have a better understanding. I do now fully agree with you all. I guess my main reasoning to respond is that there is a culture of sensationalizing everything. Everything is a cause these days. Not everything has to be a cause but in this case it has merit. Somehow even while I agree with you, I feel violated as a man for the underhanded way this woman video taped these people. It angers me that people have to resort to underhanded means to make a change. So, thank you ladies, I do have empathy for what you must deal with. I do stand by my response of the value of honing a thicker skin in our dealings with people. Maybe not in this case but in general.

Stefanie Megan Brown
Stefanie Megan Brown

To this argument of, "well there's worse shit in life"......where do you draw the line, though? Well some motherfuckers over there killed and raped these people over here.....does that mean we don't pay attention to the dude dying from Cancer over here? Your argument is such a basic response to SO many GOOD causes and movements that exist to bring about change. Your logic is flawed. Who made you the deciding factor in what's important? If one social issue is deemed "not important" to you, we should just drop it? Are human beings not capable of solving multiple crises at once? I'm calling bullshit.......

Brittany Lynn
Brittany Lynn

Kurt I have to laugh at what you're saying. By personal experience, I happen to know that you act exactly like these men. Maybe not anymore, but not that many years ago.

Anthony Ryan
Anthony Ryan

I'm curious why a camera is needed to hold people accountable for their comments? She can absolutely accomplish the same thing without recording video footing and then trolling online for attention. As you can see just by reading these replies..she has done little more than start unproductive arguments. The male pigs of the world are not going to see this content and suddenly say, "your online diatribe has totally changed my lifelong pattern of behavior".

Anna Rose Sullivan
Anna Rose Sullivan

I'm not defending anything but I think there are bigger problems. And personally i think this woman is being overly dramatic.

Kitty Berg
Kitty Berg

I'm sooooo glad I moved out of downtown and into uptown after almost a decade of that daily nonsense. It's like some people just hit on anything with a pulse in the hopes that some woman, somewhere, has a bad enough day and consents to their advances. I'm all for a friendly compliment now and then, as this is Minnesota and sometimes people ARE just being nice and not trying to badly seduce every female they see, but it is so disgusting when men do this, it's not flattery! There really is a right way and a wrong way to tell a woman (or anyone of any gender, be they stranger or life-long partner) nice things, and all the people in this video are clearly doing it the wrong way. Shame, shame on them all. And shame to the people that allow them to keep acting in such a way, although I wouldn't want a man to be afraid to talk to a woman for fear of a tongue lashing any more than I would want a women to fear what is about to come out of a man's mouth. Minnesota is supposed to be niiiiiiice. Quit ruining it.

Christine Tuma
Christine Tuma

We heard about this all the way out here in NY. Good for her!

Krista Ostrom
Krista Ostrom

Anna, are you serious? Why the need to defend men who harass women for fun?

Krista Ostrom
Krista Ostrom

Stephen, do you get harassed often while walking down the street, caring for your children, shopping for groceries, washing your car, getting the mail, exercising, etc., etc.? Do women follow you around and comment on your appearance, your body parts, etc., to the point where you feel very uncomfortable and start to wonder if they are ever going to leave you alone? Do they sometimes follow you on the bus or train, get off at your stop, and continue to harass and follow you? Do you feel genuinely afraid for your own safety? Do you worry that these women may force themselves on you sexually, hurt you, kill you? Do they call you "slut" "bitch" "whore" etc. for simply refusing to talk to them? Unless you answer yes to all of this, you have no idea what you're talking about.

nandujour
nandujour

We can debate the intention of the catcaller. We can debate whether the woman should ignore it or try and hold that catcaller accountable. It doesn't matter. Bottom line is, it's invasive and it 100% impedes woman's experience when she is alone in public. That's why it's harassment; that's why it should be addressed.


With that being said, I don't think many men are going to react well to being called harassers. That's why I think this approach is a little harsh. An alternative campaign would express something along the lines of, "Please have the decency to let me go about my day. You don't want to be interrupted and neither do I."

Dan Smith
Dan Smith

Well, at least you won't have to worry about it in another 5 years or so.

Stephen Noel
Stephen Noel

Don't you see the type of problem you are creating making up lines to not cross. Any one can claim haand its a card only to be used unless its actually happening. Are you being hurt physically? Does it impede you are your personal growth as a woman? These answers are no because you are in control of what you hear, you can choose to listen to it or ignore it. You can call them out when it is rude behavior but claiming that cat calling as a whole is harassment, I respectfully disagree. People should learn to not feel so entitled and more assertive instead of whining to the media to gain exposure for intolorance to handle diversity in all its facets of life. In other works, it could be incumbent of the individual to choose to ignore it and grow a thicker skin.

John Bunch
John Bunch

Whatever. If I point out how sexist that show is, I am racist. LOL

Brendan Willis
Brendan Willis

bro it's sabado gigante. you aren't even good at being racist

Brad Peterson
Brad Peterson

I responded to an article while you responded to me, personally. Who's trolling again? If you're looking for an outlet for your energy, try something more constructive than manufactured outrage and maybe (you too) will find security.

Samantha Grangaard
Samantha Grangaard

She is harassed. She feels harassed, she recorded harassment and stood up. She is anything but petty. Petty is you trolling on women expresses their own personal experienced and judging them for no reason but to feel more secure about your place in life

Vanessa Grausam
Vanessa Grausam

Because she works downtown. I don't think she is targeting downtown specifically.

Vanessa Grausam
Vanessa Grausam

Stephen you obviously don't know what harrasement is. "The making of unwanted and offensive advances or of offensive remarks or acts,..."

Brad Peterson
Brad Peterson

Even if part of your story is believable, your logic is still rooted in fallacy and a bit "petty". Don't forget this is MPLS, where (unfortunately) I probably run a higher risk than you, toots.

Stefanie Megan Brown
Stefanie Megan Brown

Other cultures do a lot of fucked up shit John. So we should just give up trying to evolve ourselves and start stabbing people because then at least we won't be as bad as "them"?

Stefanie Megan Brown
Stefanie Megan Brown

John aka Bill O'Reilly would you stop, you don't know DICK about hip-hop culture. Wanna talk misogyny what about Christian Church culture how bout professional sports culture how bout half your precious Republican party culture?! There's a lot of goddamn misogyny to go around. Being called a bitch or a ho is just as bad as being in a binder full of women you jackass

Sabrina Edwards
Sabrina Edwards

Apparently I offended a lot of people, while I stand by the fact that I believe we as a society should be tougher about certain issues, I reacted harshly by the rampant name calling while responding to the initial posting & for that I apologize. I see the world in shades much different at times. Thank you Krista Ostrom, it was a long time ago, but out of those life changing events, I arose a stronger & wiser woman & able to stand with my head held high. Again, I apologize to those I offended with my baseless & derogatory name calling.

John Bunch
John Bunch

In Muslim countries the imams say women in skirts should be raped.

John Bunch
John Bunch

Latin culture (Spain, Latin America, Italy) basically treats women as objects. Watch Italian TV sometime. Or Sabato Caliente in the US. In fact, I dare say, women won't like the increasing Latin Americanization of the US.

deadfrog
deadfrog

John Bunch, this is generally true among lower income people of all races, which is why it affected the Irish for so long, and continues to be a problem in black communities. It's part of the disease of poverty. Where men feel frustration over lack of security and basic control of their lives, they are more likely to take it out on those weaker than they. Their wives/girlfriends just happen to be the most available. Women of course do this too, and sadly in the physical hierarchy of the family that often means taking their frustration out on children. Children see this behavior in their parents and it becomes the only coping mechanism they learn. This isn't a phenomenon that is unique to any one race or ethnicity. It comes with growing up in an environment of social and/or economic oppression, not genetics. 

JohnSnow
JohnSnow

Well if you actually do some reasearch a very small portion of slaves were mistreated, and the reason why is where the money came from it would be like a farmer getting mad and breaking his tractor.  And slaves were given small plots of land to farm on.  But there are always the bad apples in every bunch doesn't mean you throw the whole bunch you just seperate them.  It really irks me that it is made out like "all" slaves were treated like animals and they were not most of them were not and most of them had better lives here than they did in Africa. So the moral of the story is 1. Don't group up a race because some of them did bad things, and 2. If you don't know the history don't just repeat what you heard on CNN..........

digitalprotocol
digitalprotocol topcommenter

never apologize on the internet, its poor form

DavidFoureyes
DavidFoureyes topcommenter

I want to counter John's last two points, however I can't remember the formula for right...is it, three wrongs or four? 


The only reason I ask: I heard they changed the bylaws at last year's internet jackass convention...

Drake_Tungsten
Drake_Tungsten

You mean those extremely religious, conservative societies?  Imagine that.  


I love how you mention the old time Cary Grant days, when women in Hollywood were nothing more than props, blacks had almost no rights, and if they were in movies, they were basically minstrels.  You're clearly not old enough to have lived during that time, so instead you should pick up a history book instead of basing your idea of that time off of movies.  


Furthermore, just because it's shittier for women in other countries doesn't mean that women don't have legitimate grievances here in this country.  Go for a walk late at night sometime.  As you're on that walk take a moment to notice how you're not actively looking out for potential rapists. Pass out drunk at a party sometime.  Take a minute to realize that all your clothes are still on when you wake up, assuming they were on before you passed out.  Or maybe notice how no one is talking about whether or not Newt Gingrich has fat thighs like they do with Hilary Clinton.  And yes, the language liberals used when talking about Sarah Palin was appalling at times.  This isn't entirely a liberal vs conservative issue.  

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