Mpls woman secretly records conversations with catcallers, posts video online [VIDEOS]
|This guy told Lindsey, "Minnesota chicks are hot." Little did he know it was caught on tape.|
She's now taken to secretly recording interactions with catcallers, then posting the clips online. At the conclusion of each interaction, she tries to give the men a card referring them to CardsAgainstHarassment.com. The banner of the website reads, "Being harassed by strangers isn't fun, but now, responding to street harassment can be."
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The site contains a number of downloadable cards with messages like, "Things that are not great about working downtown: harassment by total strangers" and, "Your mom... would be really disappointed to learn that she had raised a street harasser." (See all the designs at the end of this post.)
On the site's FAQ, Lindsey (as she's identified in a recent BuzzFeed report) asks herself: "What are you, a man-hating feminist prude?"
Here's her response:
Great question, friend. No. No, I am not. I am a sex-positive, friendly person who believes that non-harassing flirtation, courtship, and sex play a huge and healthy part in a person's quality of life. I am a feminist, but odds are, so is every person you've ever enjoyed spending time around, because that just means I believe women and men should have equal rights and opportunities and that men and women alike are worse off if we keep systems in place that perpetuate double standards or limitations for women, and people who don't support those basic principles are probably boring turds."At best, it's annoying. At worst, it makes women feel unsafe because it forces them to wonder: if this man feels entitled to comment on my appearance, what's to stop him from trying to touch me, or follow me?" she adds. "So no, it's not a compliment. If a woman tells you it's not a compliment and you persist in doing it you are being intentionally intimidating."
On the topic of what sort of street interactions are permissible, Lindsey writes, "Of course there are ways to approach women you're attracted to that aren't harassment, and ways to tell a woman you know that you think she's gorgeous. Initiating a conversation with someone you don't know and blurting out comments about their face or body isn't one of them."
"As one of my friends recently put it, when a conversation with an unknown guy centers on a woman's appearance, the conversation has become one that is 'about my body parts and that is such a minuscule part of the whole person that it makes me feel like there is a different intention in this conversation and one that I don't want to be a part of,'" she continues.
We touched base with Lindsey to see if she'd talk with us for this piece. She said she's scheduled to do an interview with Good Morning America and has agreed to exclusivity with them until the segment airs, but we agreed to talk after that happens.
Meanwhile, to see the videos Lindsay has been posting to YouTube this month, click to page two.